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(Teachings of Acharya Shree Yogeesh) What is Anger? When your blood begins to boil and it increases or surpasses the boiling degree. So when it surpasses this bolting degree, automatically your blood becomes a poison. If you are angry on someone you might not hurt other person yet, because you are not hitting the person , but you are already damaging yourself. Because anger kills you first. The main reason is that most of us try to suppress it or control it due to which it becomes bigger and bigger. It now becomes like a devil inside. Anger is the madness of the mind. Today’s human’s burning problem is anger. Everyone says that “I have too much anger”. Many people Show it, many controls and suppress it. Many just closes off from everything and everyone. People often say “I’m not angry”. But if someone does something wrong they will say “I just can not tolerate it”. If a child does not do something good or does something wrong they would say “ I have to show the anger.” But these are wrong logics, in the real sense, anger is simply sitting inside. That is why it comes out in some or other way. Actually, it waits for a little trigger or excuses to come out. If it is controlled inside, it becomes abusive and very abusive. If it is not inside of you, the what it is that is coming out. Eg: if someone wants to pull water out from the well, they throw bucket in the well and pull out water “if” there is water it will come out, if not then is empty bucket. Symptom's of Angry Person
8 ways to dissolve Anger: First instruction is to think strongly and accept the fact fully that “I am responsible for my anger”. Take responsibility on yourself. Understand that "Anger is in me, others only triggers it". Second instruction: when you are angry look at yourself in the mirror and be quiet, so you will not even recognize yourself. Because your face is red, it might change shape and you will not like it at all. Third, drink cold water. If you forget ask someone that “If I get angry, give me cold water”. Cold water will work right away. Fourth, If you are holding anger for someone, talk with that person. How you will talk? Nice way, not yelling or screaming. It does not help at all. It will create more fight and arguments. Talking about it helps to slowly dissolve it. Fifth, try to count from 100, 99, 98… reverse it up to 1. Sixth, change the place, go outside. If you are surrounded with people, just leave the room and go outside for a walk. Seventh, every night meditate with the full moon. Meditating with the full moon, you will calm down all the time and will feel peace. You simply have to visualize full moon, Visualize bright white light entering from your crown to head, forehead, eyes, chin, face and thus dissolving into you enter self. Eighth way is to understand forgiveness. Absence of anger is a real forgiveness. If there is presence of anger there is no forgiveness. Don't pile or suppress this heaviness within you. Work on dissolving this right now. Finally the strongest way is to watch it, observe it and follow the instructions fully. It will feel calm and peaceful inside. Now I will share which techniques I used from the above to take care of my anger issues. Anger was just sitting there to come out and waited for some triggers, always. As it is the natural way of the body to purge the toxins out. The last one, to watch with awareness helped me tremendously to make me feel peace and free from inside. I feel very light hearted and can really enjoy those joyful moments at the fullest. What worked for me and how? 1) Whenever anger trigger. I watched myself. 2) Whatever action was taken after the anger triggered, I observed it, recalled it during meditation as I could not help to work on it as it disturbed me a lot. 3) I watched how disturbed I remained until I accept that I was responsible, no one else was suppose to blame and being aware of that helped me to go little further on dissolving this devil. 4) Next meditating visualizing the cool, white moon rays on me helps me to calm down a lot. 5) Vowing to myself that I will try my best to improve further while being aware of my negative feeling gave a complete feeling of freedom was just awesome. You must try, trust and practice. Otherwise this devil loves to remain within your being as a permanent home, forever. Another tip or "the Best" way to avoid any arguments or fight between any relationship is trying to understand life in multi dimension. We need to start understanding and seeing the situation from others point of view. once we start practicing this, fights, arguments and thus anger will lessen its frequency. Finally, understanding how much damage anger has already done to your relationship, physical and mental health will helped me to remain calm and balanced in any situation. Understanding that in forgiving others is not a big deal at all, you just made yourself in higher position and put others down. First thing is to look at your mistakes first. Look at how much damage did you do to yourself, your relationship, how much others suffer, kids, family, parents. Criticizing others and finding other's mistake is very easy, but looking at yourself is the hardest thing to do. Bura jo dekhan mein chala, bura na milaya koi. Jo Dil khoja apna, mujhse bura na koi. -Sant Kabir Meaning: I searched for the crooked, but failed to find a single one. When I searched within myself, "I" found the crooked one. But once you have started your inward journey to look within, peace, joy and happiness is not far away from you. Remember that Anger creates toxins in the body. Learn how to dissolve it otherwise it acts as a silent killer. If you don't take care of this now, many physical or mental health issues can arise. Being an Angry person is not bad as yet, but if you do not work on it, it could be worst. |
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